er that would be spots, sorry .
just woke up .

If it was serious about it, why is it over? When was it over, really? (could be one or both for whatever reason didn't want to admit the truth for 20 years)

I personally wouldn't say that Sag's are commitment-phobes, however keep in mind that when we're not in our heads, we're in our bodies (bit of a dichotomy, that) and being that we have the body of a horse, so we like to run. Maybe he was in his head for 20 years? If he starts getting antsy, take him outdoors for something exhaustingly physical. To appeal to his mental side, ask philosphical questions; ones that show you've given some thought to the subject before speaking. :) We get bored easy, so mix it up!

theres your answer ruth. hes not a commitmentphobe.

but, since he recently got out of a 20 year relationship, it is understandable that he might be in a weird headspace right now, regarding "his space", going into another relationship right away.. yet striggling with the fact he really likes you and wants to..

i dont know anything about his previous 20 yr relationship and why it ended. but maybe there are some things he wants to or needs to do for himself, like goals, career etc that maybe he didnt do because he was in said relationship...

and you can never plan love hehe, it comes along unexpectedly no matter what else we have planned.

i wouldnt worry that he is a commitmentphobe.