Are Sagittarians cuddly?

topic posted Thu, July 12, 2007 - 6:05 PM by  magenta
Hi.

I'm a Pisces (Moon Aquarius, Cancer Rising, Venus and Mercury in Pisces) dating a Sag (Moon Taurus, Gemini Rising, Venus in Scorpio and Mercury in Sagittarius) for two and a half months.

There is a lot I could say about the relationship but my question today is about physical affection. I'm into it -- I love to cuddle and be close and hold hands and caress and stroke and kiss. My Sag partner seems to be not so into it. We cuddle in bed, and occasionally play around physically, but when we are together alone we are mostly like friends.

Strangely, my Sag partner seems MORE affectionate when we are in public!

Any thoughts? This is my first post, I am hoping for some good conversation and insights.

Thanks.
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magenta
New Jersey
  • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

    Thu, July 12, 2007 - 8:17 PM
    Personally I used shy away from public affection. I have learned with my current S.O. that this is really just silly. I just used to do it more in private. I am a shy guy. That being said, I LOVE to cuddle, touch, feel.
    • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

      Fri, July 13, 2007 - 4:46 AM
      hmmm, interesting. i wonder if it is the dynamic between the two of us. since i know he is a sag and he needs his freedom, i do my best to give it to him and keep my distance. i feel like he doesn't even want to be pinned down simply by the act of me wrapping my arms around him. i also thought -- maybe he's not that attracted to me? but i can't see that...i'm pretty good looking IMO and besides i don't think a sag would date someone they found unattractive, would they? for nearly three months no less.

      that he is physically demonstrative in public indicates to me that he needs to feel masculine in public...i read somewhere that sag is one of the most insecure signs. not that we all aren't at some points in time. i do not mind at all -- the pisces throughout my chart loves feeling pretty, dainty and feminine.
      • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

        Fri, July 13, 2007 - 6:59 AM
        I'm a female Sagittarian, so I don't know if my viewpoints will help any since there's a distinct difference between male and female display of emotion, but I'll offer you my two cents anyway:

        It is true that Sagittarians need a lot of freedom, no doubt. We do have a tendency to rebel when we feel the walls closing in on us, so to speak - may these be emotional or physical walls. But it's wrong of others to interpret that as indifference or lack of interest on our part (even though it's an understandable conclusion to draw). Sagittarians can be VERY cuddly. I'm like a kitten when I'm in love and I know my Scorpio boyfriend appreciates that. But there are times (not too often I think, but on occasion), when I just cannot bare to be held, kissed, touched, "pinned down", hold hands, exchange little pecks on the cheek, stare into his eyes for minutes on end, etc. I can't really reveal why this happens, because I don't understand it myself - but it's not about us not wanting our partners. It's about us needing to be by ourselves. Which may sound like two sides of the same coin, but it's really not.

        When my Scorp boyfriend was courting me, he wasn't so much couring me as he was chasing me around like a leo after its prey (pun intented - he's got Leo rising). He was very very intense about it, and for this reason alone, I kept him at an arm lengths distance for quite some time. We got greatly along as friends, and we've proven to be the most compatible of lovers, but at the time, with the intensity of his emotions and all of his demands (which he craved of me long before I was ready to give it) I certainly felt claustrophobic and just wanted to run far away.

        You may wonder now how this has anything to do with physical affection? Don't worry, I do have a point to all of this: When we feel that our relationship with our partner is based on equality, friendship and harmonious wishes, we can be surprisingly loyal and steadfast, sensuous and loving. But whenever we feel that too much responsibility and demands are placed upon us, we start to choke in no time.

        Not sure how all of this translates, but I hope it offered a little bit of insight? :-)
        • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

          Fri, July 13, 2007 - 7:16 PM
          okay...definitely insightful. i don't want to make it an issue between us but i wonder if it will become one down the road....will i be able not to get along without large amounts of physical affection? We'll see.

          The last thing I want to do is make him feel claustrophobic, and I've been doing a really good job so far of not making him feel that way. Maybe I'll just experiment with being a little more demonstrative and see how he reacts. If he doesn't like it, I'll pull back.

          Thanks! =^)
        • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

          Sat, March 8, 2008 - 5:35 AM
          I feel the same as you, Mona, as a fellow female Sagg,,,i adore being showered with affection at times--but when that stifling feeling comes up i've got to have my space,,,and i know it has alienated others from me in the past, but i can't help it. My pisces ex-husband took it as a literal affront to him, and it caused many problems between us, but i swear i am cuddly in certain applications, lol
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    Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

    Mon, July 16, 2007 - 12:15 PM
    Sagatarians are the entertainers of the zodiac sign, so I find that in love, out in public, we will show more affection. It drives us to show more in public, just as we will quickly become the center of attention in a room. Male sags are different that females and having said that, for me I am always cuddly and could be if I was with a partner that allowed me that freedom. But for men, and a sag man, they need to feel free, so the cuddling may seem constrictive at times.
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      Wed, July 18, 2007 - 11:15 AM
      Thanks Amber. Your thoughts seem right on. So I should not take his lack of private cuddling as some sort of indication he is not attracted to me?

      I don't mind giving my Sag his freedom...I thought I would have a problem with it, being a Pisces and just the person I am. But somehow its working so far. I never call him, never ask where he is going or what he did last night, and I really rarely wonder about it...the more freedom I give him the more he comes back and I just love it.
      • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

        Wed, July 18, 2007 - 10:40 PM
        i'm a sagg. with strangly the opposite, gemini moon and taurus rising.
        i like to cuddle allot! but there are some times when i feel i need alittle breathing room. like when watching television together i like to be held, and such but too much affection can be annoying. And the more affection in public thing could be because us saggs sometimes like to show off our partners. As if to say, "yeah, this is what i have and you can't". sorry if i cant be of much help, i dont date saggs much. i only dated one and it ended up a huge mess. but good luck!
        • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

          Thu, July 19, 2007 - 2:59 PM
          well, i certainly do not mind that he wants to show me off! i get that sense from him. makes me feel quite confident and good about myself.

          i'm learning a lot about sagittarians. a real handful. but lots of fun!!
          • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

            Wed, November 14, 2007 - 9:49 AM
            I LOVE PDA and Cuddling - I see no reason why NOT to be affectionate with someone you love.
            • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

              Fri, November 16, 2007 - 10:40 AM
              I am a cuddly type of Saggittarius and I like PDA...I like holding my GF's hand and I like kissing her in public too...you know...a nice kiss (Not one of those Kisses where passers-by look at you and are repulsed or yell "Get A Room" sorta deals.....LOL! Although I have had that happen too..in the past I mean)
  • cuddle breakthrough

    Mon, July 23, 2007 - 11:33 AM
    well i had a cuddle breakthrough with my sag and i couldn't be happier or more pleased.

    i talked to him this weekend, and he was positively gushing..."i wish i could spend today with you (instead of some bachelor party thing)...i hope you can see me tomorrow...i'd really like to see you..." i was really quite floored and my heart was swept away!

    it happened after i wrote a poem (about my late first love, on the anniversary of us meeting) and i posted it on myspace. at the bottom i thanked a few people for their "creative inspiration" and my sag was among them.

    this fiery sag really has inspired me and made my creative waters boil. i'm a very inwardly creative person and a writer by profession, but I have trouble revealing all that's really going on inside of me through creative writing, preferring instead to dabble in the more technical aspects of writing (editing, writing essays, reading nonfiction -- perhaps its my aquarius moon).

    since meeting my sag i've been very motivated to go beyond myself by him, although I don't explicitly tell him this. i think that he read the poem, and my words of dedication to him, and was truly touched by the effect he had upon me as well as my literary and imaginative talents.

    it was my sag who, in responding to my remark that i don't have the confidence to perform poetry, said "did you just say you don't have the competence? i know that's not true. i know you're beyond competent."

    so i am really grateful for this interplay and his response was just great. when we finally met in person it was so passionate and intense, and we held each other almost all night. we even went to the movies and cuddled the entire time!!!

    just an update. have i found a key to the smoldering passions of a sag? he makes my heart race.
    • Re: cuddle breakthrough

      Wed, February 20, 2008 - 5:49 PM
      we sagittarians LOVE to be impressed and we LOVE a challenge (at least one we can win!). but just make sure you ALWAYS be honest and true to yourself, he'll definately notice any fakeness. if he thinks you're special and not like most of the girls he's met, he'll decide he wants you to be his significant other, so stay mysterious (which Pisces are!) and remember to be confident and feel good about yourself, he'll notice!
  • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

    Fri, November 16, 2007 - 1:50 PM
    I love cuddleling with my guy it's so much fun! and when we are alone i kiss him and hug him all of the time. While he is driving some times i kiss his neck. I love being affectionate with him all of the time, it feels great!
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      Sat, November 17, 2007 - 10:28 AM
      well we've been dating now for almost seven months and at this point i have absolutely no complaints with the level of physical affection we show each other...not sickening, but very satisfying.

      he's a doll and i'm head over heels for him.

      we're also "officially" now boyfriend and girlfriend, a status i had not been pushing for but surprisingly he brought up. like i said...no complaints! i read somewhere that the second best match for a pisces is a sag...second only to another fish. my sag is very exciting to me. we're both mutable, both ruled by jupiter, and my sun and moon are in the ninth house. was skeptical about sag at first but it's been wonderful. no games with sag! i love it.
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        Wed, November 21, 2007 - 12:25 AM
        Yay, here's to magenta loving a sag! WE all need it, especially us sag's! I am a very cuddly sagittarian, just haven't been doing much cuddling of late. My astrology says next year is my big year for love and romance! :^) Can't wait much longer...but as the White Stripes say, "I'm lonely but I ain't that lonely yet!"
      • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

        Fri, November 30, 2007 - 2:27 PM
        I'm a sag, and much more cuddly now than I used to be . . . I used to be very "hands off me" and got uncomfortable with physical closeness . . . now I'm very tactile, WAY too much for my Leo partner . . . but I now like physical affection from everyone! Hugs all around!
        • Re: Are Sagittarians cuddly?

          Wed, February 27, 2008 - 3:51 PM
          I'm glad its working for you, Magenta

          I'm libra sun, taur moon, gem rising, venus in scorp, and mars in sag...

          I like depth in relations and also a sense of freedom, and my sag mars allows me to be upfront with people regarding my work with horses, its a strong characterisitic, and reading about sagitarians allows me to relate better with other sag's

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